A New Year, Not a New You
5 January 2026
Why big goals only work when they fit into real life
When January Arrives Carrying Too Much Weight
A new year arrives, and with it comes a familiar pressure.
Big goals. Bold intentions. Sweeping resolutions.
“This year will be different.”
But by mid-January, many of those resolutions have quietly fallen away. This isn’t because people lack discipline or desire, but because the goals were never designed to fit into the reality of their everyday life.
We aim high, which is good, but we forget to aim small, which is essential.
Most resolutions fail because they ask too much, too soon, from routines that are already full.
The Truth About Big Goals
Big goals are not the problem.
The problem is trying to swallow them whole.
When a goal doesn’t fit into your existing rhythms (your energy, your commitments, your capacity) it becomes friction, and friction, over time, always wins.
Sustainable progress happens when your ambition respects reality.
The most effective goals aren’t the most impressive ones. They’re the ones that can survive an ordinary Tuesday.
That’s why lasting change is built from small, achievable steps. Steps that quietly integrate into your day rather than demanding a complete overhaul of your life.
So …. I did it again (Again)
I was supposed to launch my new website today.
That was the plan.
A self-imposed deadline, set with good intent and plenty of excitement … but in hindsight, it was always tight - especially over a busy Christmas and New Year period with family, consultancy and coaching commitments.
All of the above took priority. I fell ill. Life did what life does.
And that’s OK.
Missing the deadline doesn’t mean the goal was wrong. It just means the plan needed adjusting. I’ve since broken the work down into smaller, more manageable chunks - pieces that fit around real life rather than fighting it.
The website will launch soon, this newsletter will change to support my new brand and I have A LOT of exciting things in the pipeline launching in 2026.
And when they do launch, they will be better for having been built sustainably rather than rushed through brute force.
Reflection Prompts
What big goal are you carrying into this year?
Does it realistically fit into your current routines and energy?
What would the smallest meaningful step towards that goal look like?
How might progress feel if it were designed to support your life, not overwhelm it?
Final Thought
Let This Be the Year of Fitting In
You don’t need to become someone else this year, you don’t need to do everything at once, and you certainly don’t need to be perfect from day one.
Choose goals that respect your humanity.
Break them down until they fit into your days.
Let momentum build quietly.
Big things still happen … they just arrive without the burnout associated with unrealistic targets.
Let me close by wishing you a very Happy New Year. May it be steady, kind, and full of small wins that add up to something meaningful.
Remember, the path to extraordinary is walked with a thousand small steps, you’re doing great!
Barry Marshall-Graham
Executive coach and leadership advisor
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