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The Meeting After the Meeting

22 January 2026

Why real alignment only happens when truth can survive the room.

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There's a particular moment most senior people recognise.

The meeting ends. Everyone says, "Sounds good." Cameras go off, notebooks close, and the room empties.

Then the real meeting begins.

It happens in side chats, corridor conversations, quiet DMs, and that one follow-up call where the tone suddenly changes. Concerns appear that somehow could not be spoken when everyone was present. Doubts surface that were apparently not worth naming five minutes earlier. Decisions get softened, delayed, or quietly re-litigated.

And if you're the leader, you feel it as a kind of hidden drag.

Not because people are bad, or political, or trying to undermine you. Often it's because truth has a social cost, and people are managing that cost in real time. They are protecting relationships, reputations, status, and sometimes their own sense of safety. The safest place to be honest can feel like the place where the fewest people are watching.

But ... here's the problem.

When the truth only shows up after the meeting, you do not have alignment. You have compliance, followed by correction. You have a decision that looks clean on paper and messy in reality. You have momentum that seems to exist until it doesn't.

Over time, it becomes normal. The public room becomes a performance. The private room becomes where leadership actually happens.

If this is showing up around you, it's worth asking a few gentle questions.

What do people believe happens to them if they speak plainly in the room?

What kinds of truth are welcomed, and what kinds of truth are quietly punished?

What have you been rewarding without meaning to, agreement over honesty, smoothness over clarity, harmony over reality?

And if you're honest, where do you do it too?

Where do you save your real view for later because it feels safer?

A thought to land the week.

The goal is not to force people to speak. It's to make it safer to be real than to be polite. The more senior you become, the more your work is not just making decisions, it's creating conditions where the truth can survive in public.

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