Real Progress Begins When You Stop Needing to Fix Everything
24 October 2025
If you coach or lead others, it’s easy to believe your value comes from having the answers.
You see someone stuck or hurting, and the instinct kicks in:
“How can I fix this?”
“What advice can I offer?”
“What’s the best next step?”
This is where we need to stop and take a pause. Great coaching isn’t about steering someone to your solution.
Great coaches hold space for them to find their truth.
We agree on the destination.
They choose the path.
We simply walk it with them, agree on some commitments, and check in regularly to hold them accountable.
When you stop trying to fix everything, something powerful happens:
You start listening deeper.
You begin to trust their expertise.
You make room for something more honest to emerge.
Sometimes the healing or progress begins because of what you didn’t rush into, rather than “jumping right to advice giving”.
Try these in your next conversation:
“What feels true for you right now?”
“If you already knew the answer, what might it be?”
“How can I best serve you right now? Do you need support or space?”
You don’t need to fix it.
You just need to stay present.
Remember, the path to extraordinary is walked with a thousand small steps, and you’re doing great!
Barry Marshall-Graham
Executive coach and leadership advisor
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