It looks like ambition.
It sounds like high standards.
It gets rewarded, promoted, and praised.
But underneath?
The insecure overachiever isn’t driven by vision.
They’re driven by fear.
We all know one.
They have a fear of not being good enough or being “found out”.
A fear that if they stop (even for a second) everything will fall apart.
They deliver, exceed expectations, and carry weight that isn’t theirs.
They wear capability like armour, and exhaustion like a badge.
Here’s the catch:
The receivers keep rewarding the output, while the world of the insecure overachiever quietly erodes one “success’” at a time.
The joy and the pleasure gets sucked away.
The fear takes its place.
If you see yourself (or your someone you know) in this pattern, ask:
“Am I (or you) doing this because it matters to me, or because something has to be proved?”
“Who would I/you be without the achievement?”
“What part of me/you needs a little reassurance, instead of more responsibility?”
The goal isn’t to do more.
It’s to be whole, and at peace with ourselves … with or without the gold stars.
Good enough, can … sometimes … be good enough.
As long as the journey is filled with joy!
Remember, the path to extraordinary is walked with a thousand small steps, you’re doing great!
Barry Marshall-Graham
Executive coach and leadership advisor
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