You’re Not Stuck ... You May Just Be Resisting a Feeling
3 October 2025
“I feel stuck!”
It’s one of the most common phrases in coaching.
But what if stuckness isn’t a problem to solve … more, just a signal to feel?
Often, what we call “stuck” is actually this:
A clever, quiet way of avoiding a feeling we don’t want to face.
Fear.
Grief.
Anger.
Guilt.
Even joy (yes, that one too).
Our mind loops, and our body freezes.
But underneath it all is something true we haven’t let ourselves feel yet.
So here’s the invitation in this coaching corner today:
Instead of trying to push through it, fix it, or “figure it out” …
Try softening your stance and leaning into it.
Ask:
“What feeling have I been resisting?”
“What might happen if I just let it be here?”
“Can I feel this… without needing to fix this?”
You don’t need more willpower.
You need more willingness.
(Because you’re not stuck)
You are just standing in the doorway of something deeper.
Remember, the path to extraordinary is walked with a thousand small steps, and you’re doing great!
Barry Marshall-Graham
Executive coach and leadership advisor
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